Interaction with the environment
Within StressLogosEros, interaction with the environment refers
to the constant interplay between our negative and positive experience
of the surrounding world and ourselves, our reactions, actions
and inner states. Your surrounding world is the exact situation
and environment you are in at the moment. However, the model
is not about serious situations and crises, only conditions you
can manage yourself, possibly with support from your network.
Experience of the surrounding world refers to the fact that it
is your subjective evaluation and interpretation of the environment
which is in focus. It can be useful to think about this, for
example, in stress situations where we have particular difficulty
thinking clearly and precisely.
The experience of control over one's existence, rather than
helplessness, is important for well-being. Control can either
be that we influence the environment, or that we adapt ourselves
in an appropriate way (when the external situation cannot be
It is good to be constantly aware of whether control is located
in the environment, or within ourselves: whether we are controlled
from without or within. If you are not careful, you risk being
made a victim of manipulation.
Often you cannot control the environment, but you almost always
have the opportunity to control your inner state - not always
immediately, but you can train yourself to manage it more and
more quickly with time.
StressLogosEros makes you aware that you can choose which state
you want to be in, and react based on, in a particular situation.
For example, if you are in contact with a person who is stressed
and negative towards you, you do not have to become stressed
yourself. You can see if empathy (sympathetic insight) can solve
the conflict (see also the blue green state). Or if that doesn't
lead anywhere, you can try out several specific problem solutions
(blue red state). The last resort is to remove yourself from
the situation, or if it is possible to speak to another person,
to request to do so.
You can also take responsibility for creating a positive interaction
with the environment you choose. You are the only person responsible
for whether you experience well-being and are positive towards
others. It is not realistic, and does not help, to push this
responsibility onto others.
In states with positive emotions, the eros states, we have positive
interaction. Our contact with others is characterised by synergy,
empathy, friendship and love.
The StressLogosEros model can illustrate emotional interactions between two people. There
are four different emotional states, leading to ten different
interaction combinations. In other words, you can have ten different
(positive or negative) interactions with another person.
stress -- stress & stress --
logosstress & stress --
logoseros & stress --
logosstress & logosstress --
logoseros & logosstress --
logoseros & logoseros --
eros & eros –-
This table can be used to explain what happens at the emotional
level between yourself and another person. The table can cover
all kinds of negative and positive emotions, so in reality there
are countless different interactions - just as in real
Emotions come to expression in speech, tone of voice, gestures
(raised finger, crossed arms, wringing hands, pat on the shoulder),
facial expressions (frowning, disapproving expression, shaking
or nodding the head, smiling), eye contact, a relaxed or tense
posture, touching and sexual behaviour.