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LogosStress state

The LogosStress state is a normal state in our day-to-day lives, in which we carry out and manage the things we have to do. The stress feelings, including the three basic ones (anxiety, aggression and frustration) are weaker than they are in the stress state. They do not necessarily have to be very weak, but they are weak enough in relation to the red state that you have cognitive control and can use your common sense.
Your feelings can be so weak that you do not notice them unless you give attention to them, or they can also be stronger, to the point that you are in a bad mood but have it under control. You might be able to simply ignore them, or you can choose to listen to them and use them to become conscious of a problem and use the strain constructively to solve the problem.
What applies to your feelings is also true of your body state, that is, the physical symptoms you experience.

Controlled aggression in the form of a realistic and appropriate drive and assertiveness is a stress emotion behaviour that can be positively experienced.
The blue red state can accommodate a fighter level, called positive stress = eustress
(eu: Greek = good, light). In this state we are interacting with our environment and with influences that are perceived as opportunities and challenges, which we feel that we can handle and that also increase our performance level. We might feel that we are subject to positive strain that we can use to learn from, for example, when solving tasks and problems. We might feel effective, and that what we are doing is successful. We are motivated to act, and then to relax afterwards. Our activities could be to do with work, study, social relationships or leisure.

A positive stressor is a challenge that motivates and initiates strength, personal development and maturity. Whether a stressor is negative or positive in relation to our resources is individual, and can change for each person depending on our current state and resources.
It is valuable to know the difference between your blue red state and your red state, and be aware of when you are getting close to the red state boundary. If you are close to the red, you can rapidly change state several times a day. If you are stable for a long time in a positive stress state, there is a risk of falling into the trap of workaholism: your motivation can become so strong that you neglect or forget your private life, exercise and rest.

It is in the LogosStress state that we can work with ourselves so that we avoid becoming stressed, especially in the long-term. If you are conscious of your blue red state, and you have some stress management methods in this state, you have the opportunity to choose this state when you are subjected to a stressor. For example, in a conflict situation, the first thing you can choose to think about is that the other person cannot put strain on you, but only your thoughts about the situation can trigger stress - and you have the ability to control your thoughts.
We all have our methods, some good and some not so good, of solving conflicts and problems. If some of your strategies do not work, you can find some specific and useful suggestions below.

Cognition in this state can consist of automatic thoughts, but there is opportunity for controlled thoughts with mental effort and conscious awareness: logos is a reasoning that seeks to be realistic, objective, balanced, and constructive. It can also be called critical reasoning, involving curiosity for knowledge, tolerance for different perspectives, systematic analysis and reasoning forward with an interest in finding a practical, useable, problem solution.
A problem is a situation that we assess as bad, or at least as something that needs to be changed. The totality we are in is affected, and we want to maintain balance and harmony. Sometimes it can be relevant to ask: who owns the problem? Is it me, you or us? If I own the problem, I must take responsibility for the solution. If it is you, then it is your responsibility (but I would like to try to help you if you want me to). If it is us, then it is our joint responsibility.
Problem solving is thought and action patterns, ideas, possibilities and strategies we can try out in relation to our specific goal. A solution can also involve accepting the situation as it is and adapting one's self in an appropriate manner.
Problem solving under strain is called coping. This refers to our thinking and behaviour in interactions with our environment that are difficult or involve conflict. It is about handling a stressor. There are both good and bad ways of doing this.
We have two main forms of coping: problem-focused coping and emotion-focused coping. In the case of the former, one concentrates on the stressor and tries to solve the problem or to remove or reduce it.
Emotion-focused coping involves managing stress feelings by relaxing and distracting oneself, for example, by taking a break, talking to somebody, listening to music, watching television, eating or exercising.
Various defence mechanisms are also included under coping, such as rationalisation (explaining away) and denial (of the realities). These are not good forms of coping.

One can increase the effect of coping by attempting to predict the event, believing in your own abilities and resources, and using the support available from others.
Self-confidence is an experience of effectiveness. Being convinced that you have the necessary strength to handle a problem. You develop a feeling of self worth when you fundamentally accept yourself as you are, while still desiring to develop personally.
Self-confidence training or assertiveness training is behavioural training in which you learn to communicate openly and appropriately, make your opinion known, stick to your guns, defend your position and say "no" where necessary. It is a behaviour we usually have opportunity to train ourselves in in the situations we are in, so that we improve our social skills.
You can also use affirmations, i.e. positive confirmations that you can handle certain specific situations well. This method is used, for example, in sporting situations such as mental training, that is, exercises in controlling mental functions. It is done by placing yourself in a state which is both concentrated and relaxed at the same time. Within this state, you prepare yourself for a task that requires particularly good performance.
You can also use affirmations in a cognitive program using positive thoughts about yourself and your situation. You can make your own cognitive program with your own short and precise sentences, and use it when you are under strain or nearing that point.
If you want to work with automatic negative thoughts, it is necessary to analyse these (why do I think like this?) in order to be able to restructure them to positive, controlled and constructive thoughts. This analysis must be specific and realistic, focused on problem solving and goal-oriented, and be appropriate in the context of the situation you are in.
You can get ideas for this by looking at the examples here: Turn around negative automatic thinking.
If you have difficulty controlling your anger in conflict situations, you may also choose to work with this: Coping with anger.

Via stress management, one can learn how to handle stress both in relation to one's stressors and one's own resources and reactions.

You can use a guide to make your own stress management plan.



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