The LogosStress state is a normal state in our day-to-day lives,
in which we carry out and manage the things we have to do. The
stress feelings, including the three basic ones (anxiety, aggression
and frustration) are weaker than they are in the stress state.
They do not necessarily have to be very weak, but they are weak
enough in relation to the red state that you have cognitive control
and can use your common sense.
Your feelings can be so weak that you do not notice them unless
you give attention to them, or they can also be stronger, to
the point that you are in a bad mood but have it under control.
You might be able to simply ignore them, or you can choose to
listen to them and use them to become conscious of a problem
and use the strain constructively to solve the problem.
What applies to your feelings is also true of your body state,
that is, the physical symptoms you experience.
Controlled aggression in the form of a realistic and appropriate
drive and assertiveness is a stress emotion behaviour that can
be positively experienced.
The blue red state can accommodate a fighter level, called positive
stress = eustress
(eu: Greek = good, light). In this state we are interacting with
our environment and with influences that are perceived as opportunities
and challenges, which we feel that we can handle and that also
increase our performance level. We might feel that
we are subject to positive strain that we can use to learn from,
for example, when solving tasks and problems. We might feel effective,
and that what we are doing is successful. We are motivated to
act, and then to relax afterwards. Our activities could be to
do with work, study, social relationships or leisure.
A positive stressor is a challenge that motivates and initiates
strength, personal development and maturity. Whether a stressor
is negative or positive in relation to our resources is individual,
and can change for each person depending on our current state
It is valuable to know the difference between your blue red state
and your red state, and be aware of when you are getting close
to the red state boundary. If you are close to the red, you can
rapidly change state several times a day. If you are stable for
a long time in a positive stress state, there is a risk of falling
into the trap of workaholism: your motivation can become so strong
that you neglect or forget your private life, exercise and rest.
It is in the LogosStress state that we can work with ourselves
so that we avoid becoming stressed, especially in the long-term.
If you are conscious of your blue red state, and you have some
stress management methods in this state, you have the opportunity
to choose this state when you are subjected to a stressor. For
example, in a conflict situation, the first thing you can choose
to think about is that the other person cannot put strain on
you, but only your thoughts about the situation can trigger stress
- and you have the ability to control your thoughts.
We all have our methods, some good and some not so good, of solving
conflicts and problems. If some of your strategies do not work,
you can find some specific and useful suggestions below.
Cognition in this state can consist of automatic thoughts, but
there is opportunity for controlled thoughts with mental effort
and conscious awareness: logos is a reasoning that seeks to be
realistic, objective, balanced, and constructive. It can also
be called critical reasoning, involving curiosity for knowledge,
tolerance for different perspectives, systematic analysis and
reasoning forward with an interest in finding a practical, useable,
A problem is a situation that we assess as bad, or at least as
something that needs to be changed. The totality we are in is
affected, and we want to maintain balance and harmony. Sometimes
it can be relevant to ask: who owns the problem? Is it me, you
or us? If I own the problem, I must take responsibility for the
solution. If it is you, then it is your responsibility (but I
would like to try to help you if you want me to). If it is us,
then it is our joint responsibility.
Problem solving is thought and action patterns, ideas, possibilities
and strategies we can try out in relation to our specific goal.
A solution can also involve accepting the situation as it is
and adapting one's self in an appropriate manner.
Problem solving under strain is called coping. This refers to
our thinking and behaviour in interactions with our environment
that are difficult or involve conflict. It is about handling
a stressor. There are both good and bad ways of doing this.
We have two main forms of coping: problem-focused
emotion-focused coping. In the case of the former, one concentrates
on the stressor and tries to solve the problem or to remove or
Emotion-focused coping involves managing stress feelings by relaxing
and distracting oneself, for example, by taking a break, talking
to somebody, listening to music, watching television, eating
Various defence mechanisms are also included under coping, such
as rationalisation (explaining away) and denial (of the realities).
These are not good forms of coping.
One can increase the effect of coping by attempting to predict
the event, believing in your own abilities and resources, and
using the support available from others.
Self-confidence is an experience of effectiveness. Being convinced
that you have the necessary strength to handle a problem. You
develop a feeling of self worth when you fundamentally accept
yourself as you are, while still desiring to develop personally.
training or assertiveness training is behavioural
training in which you learn to communicate openly and appropriately,
make your opinion known, stick to your guns, defend your position
and say "no" where necessary. It is a behaviour we
usually have opportunity to train ourselves in in the situations
we are in, so that we improve our social skills.
You can also use affirmations, i.e. positive confirmations that
you can handle certain specific situations well. This method
is used, for example, in sporting situations such as mental
that is, exercises in controlling mental functions. It is done
by placing yourself in a state which is both concentrated and
relaxed at the same time. Within this state, you prepare yourself
for a task that requires particularly good performance.
You can also use affirmations in a cognitive
program using positive
thoughts about yourself and your situation. You can make your
own cognitive program with your own short and precise sentences,
and use it when you are under strain or nearing that point.
If you want to work with automatic negative thoughts, it is necessary
to analyse these (why do I think like this?) in order to be able
to restructure them to positive, controlled and constructive
thoughts. This analysis must be specific and realistic, focused
on problem solving and goal-oriented, and be appropriate in the
context of the situation you are in.
You can get ideas for this by looking at the examples here: Turn
around negative automatic thinking.
If you have difficulty controlling your anger in conflict situations,
you may also choose to work with this: Coping
Via stress management, one can learn how to handle stress both
in relation to one's stressors and one's own resources and reactions.
You can use a guide to make your own stress