The stress state involves the strongest negative feelings and
the eros state involves the strongest positive ones. These feelings
are so intense, that there is not logos thinking, but emotional
thinking. The feelings are: love, yearning, desire, ecstasy,
happiness, euphoria, gaiety, enthusiasm, jubilation, delight
and all the other strong positive feelings.
You can feel like you're floating on a cloud or in seventh heaven.
You feel very alive, energetic and present.
You might be alone in nature, or celebrating joyfully in the
company of others. It can be linked to romance and eroticism.
It might be a joyful time together with your child, or it might
be you are just glad to be alive.
It is a sensual and bodily state involving the enjoyment of music
and dance, sex, food and wine, or exciting physical challenges.
Your body feels to be in a comfortable, relaxed and energetic
state. In the case of stronger feelings, for example feelings
of pleasure from touch, our attention is drawn from the external
to the internal, and we find that the boundaries between our
body and environment can disappear, and our normal perception
of time and space changes.
The strongest feelings of pleasure arise during sexual intercourse,
culminating in orgasm.
There have always been myths about a Paradise or Garden
These myths tell us about the human dream regarding the eros
state, and not about a particular place on earth or in the universe.
Paradise is a figurative expression, a metaphor for the eros
This is similar to what Jesus declares: "The kingdom of
God is within you" (The Gospel of Thomas, Logion3), and
what Buddha taught: "You are all buddhas".
Below is an ancient Chinese description of Hell and Paradise.
According to ancient Chinese tradition, the difference between
Hell and Paradise is insignificant, yet at the same time crucial.
"Hell is a beautifully decorated banquet hall with long tables
overflowing with delicious food and all kinds of festive drinks.
The guests are seated and their mouths are watering. But each
one has been given a pair of two-meter long chopsticks. They
are unable to get the food into their mouths. They suffer the
torments of hell.
Paradise is exactly the same banquet hall with long tables, overflowing… etc.
Even the chopsticks are the same. The only difference is that
each guest uses their chopsticks to put food into the mouth of
the person sitting opposite. Thus everyone can enjoy the delights
This allegory, like the religions, tells us something about the
fact that when we help others and are kind towards them, we help
both ourselves and others to attain our eros state.
Care for others is both psychologically and biologically conditioned.
An important aspect of care is that we ourselves, and others,
are not lonely or isolated. We can step across our boundaries
and reach out to each other. The greater our affinity with others
and life, the healthier we are.
The dream of lost Paradise is also a longing for the magic and
pleasurable world we lived in as young children.
The eros state is a state involving faith, hope and
might be a religious faith, but it might also be a common faith
in the good things of life, and that the best success comes from
being good to yourself, others and nature. Hope can strengthen
faith in the fact that love and goodness can triumph over evil.
Love is something that arises in us in certain relationships,
but it is also a feeling we have within us which can easily disappear
if we are not careful.
In the story, "The little prince", by Antoine Saint-Exupéry,
the fox says in his parting speech to the little prince:
"And now here is my secret, a very simple secret: It
is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential
to the eye."
"What is essential is invisible to the
eye", repeated the little prince, so that he could better
The cognition in the eros state is a thinking
coloured by the emotions, which expresses something positive, and typically something
important, in our lives and inner world. In our first years of
life, our thoughts are characterised by a subjective, pleasure-oriented
thinking. It is a magic thinking. During childhood, cognition
becomes more objective and reality-oriented.
In adults, however, this cognition can be found in fantasy, which
can become so intense that fantasy and reality cannot be distinguished.
The holistic thinking described in the LogosEros state becomes
so pronounced in the Eros state that the boundaries between one's
ego and the surrounding world are influenced, and possibly even
abolished: the ego becomes one with the surrounding world.
Intuition can become so strong, that one no longer sees it as
a perception that arises and can be used along with other perceptions,
but as absolute truth.
This kind of cognition occurs in our dreams, where everything
is possible. The present, the past and the future all melt into
one, and logic is abolished. We can also recognise these characteristics
in our daydreams, when we completely relax and sink into ourselves.
This cognition is also found in humour and in creative
artistic expression, such as in poetry, fables and fairy tales, as well
as in myths and religions.
Myths, like dreams and fairy-tales are a product of human fantasy.
As a result, the images used, even though they are derived from
the material world and its history, like dreams are expressions
of our hope, longings, fears and possibilities.
Myths are psychologically symbolic. Their narratives consist
of metaphors used figuratively, not intended as a literal description
We are also familiar with metaphors in our daily lives, for example
when we call our boyfriend or girlfriend our "flame".
A strong emotional eros state is also a spiritual state. The
idea of the spiritual is understood in different ways. Conceptually,
spirit is another word for life. It is synonymous with breathing,
the breath of life or life force. Psyche also means spirit, life
spirit, life, and soul, and in the Greco-Roman mythology, Psyche
was Cupid's young, beautiful lover. (Amor (Cupid) is the Latin
name for Eros, the Greek god of love).
The spiritual has something to do with perceiving ourselves as
part of something bigger, a bigger self, a spirit, a god, life,
nature, or a loving, intimate relationship with another person.
This experience of transcendence transgresses the sensual experience
Our biological transcendence is based in the genes we inherit
and pass on together.
Whether we are religious believers or not, fundamental
spirituality is about the important human qualities like goodness, love, compassion